Yoda wrote:you won't get the best out of someone by berating them ever, either directly or passive aggressively. Think of them as your friends, because due to our mutual affinity for a near 20 year old game they are.
This. SooooooOOOOOOOOoooo much this. Inspiring people to want to deal with the shard - let's face it, for the staff it's not usually sunshine and rainbows - isn't gonna be achieved by mistreating or harassing anyone. There's rarely a whole day I staff that there isn't some form of ... "junk" ... that makes me want to just log off and play something else (because, hey,
not paid to put up with it). A lot of the time, logging on to answer pages or work on events is a question of "would I rather read my book, play some other game, watch tv, or do this". The more folks do to make it a pain in the rear to do our staffly work, the more often that question falls into options 1 2 or 3 rather than 4. When it's obvious we are not respected or appreciated by those who should respect and appreciate us the most here, it's just not worth it to log on for awhile - so we take breaks, as I recently did. But I think everyone should take that advice, not just for the game, but for life. You can't get the best out of anyone by treating them like doo-doo. Granted, that's not to say one should be a dishrag and take the mess someone may dish onto one, but when you're interacting with someone from whom you want or need something....yeah, there's a certain level of tact that becomes necessary.
Contrary to popular belief, we (meaning V and I specifically, but also the rest of the staff) are pretty darn easy to get along with. When I was a newbie staffer, I'd never spoken to +V before and I was afraid of him because he seemed scary and he far outranked me on staff. But manners dictated that I introduce myself to him, so I sent him a message on Skype when I noticed he was online. We spent that entire night talking, and that spark later turned into something very special, and he eventually moved from up north down here to Texas. Games like this can form incredible bonds between people, if given the chance. There are plenty of you who I'd enjoy having a beer with (except I don't drink beer so I guess for me it'd be some foofy drink, but I digress), regardless of whether we've had arguments or dramuhs in the past. It's all about how you present yourself to us, and how you handle potentially drama-llama situations. Be the drama-llama, and we will react accordingly. Be cool, and we'll be cool. It's really as easy as that.
Melkor wrote:But the reality is, her and +V are the ones that want the new facets to come more than any of us, it's their babies. We all know how we feel waiting, it must be 10x worse for them.
Devlin wrote:There's a vet forums??
Yes, we generally post when we're taking new folks into it, we broom it every few months to weed out inactive folks. It was intended to help V keep in touch with his Touria audience. But, as Agony pointed out in his original post, it's been dead silent there for quite awhile since there's been nothing new to discuss. I also have a discussion group for Elysium for the mid-range players, which is generally a bit more active (y'all may have noticed I tend to be a bit more active on the forums than +V

) but hasn't had a lot going on in the last few weeks, either.
Pariah wrote:Also, have y'all noticed how many y'alls +Nyx throws around when she's getting feisty. Perhaps we should tell her when her Texas is showing...
I actually use it a lot, regardless, so I suppose my Texas is always showing, lol

I generally just don't use it much when I'm being more serious or dealing with a troublemaker/problem child. I know Agony went a bit beyond his intended message, but I believe he meant well and I didn't want to see the thread blow up into a cesspool of drama and his valid questions go unanswered due to it.